Wednesday, November 02, 2005
亲亲我的宝贝
<亲亲我的宝贝> 周华健
亲亲的我的宝贝
我要越过高山
寻找那已失踪的太阳
寻找那已失踪的月亮
亲亲的我的宝贝
我要越过海洋
寻找那已失踪的彩虹
抓住瞬间失踪的流星
我要飞到无尽的夜空
摘颗星星作你的玩具
我要亲手触摸那月亮
还在上面写你的名字
啦啦呼啦啦啦呼啦啦
还在上面写你的名字
啦啦呼啦啦啦呼啦啦
最后还要平安回来
回来告诉你那一切
亲亲我的宝贝
我要走的世界的尽头
寻找传说已久的雪人
还要用尽我一切办法
让他学会念你的名字
啦啦呼啦啦啦呼啦啦
让他学会念你的名字
啦啦呼啦啦啦呼啦啦
最后还要平安回来
回来告诉你那一切
亲亲我的宝贝
夜的诗人：“
I met a mentor/friend by chance at a cafe in a public library.
'I cannot tahan kids running and shouting around in public. I think that it is very rude and their parents should take their kids in hand. Now I have one of my own, I understand how tiring it is. Sebest ... No, don't play with gor-gor's pen and paper.'
me: Wah ... 做parents的很伟大leh.
'Haiyoh ... Where got 伟大？'
Little Sebest 'popped' my coffee like what we would do to tequila-pops in the pubs. It happened so fast that 2 supervising adults could not stop it. Luckily, I always asked for a cup-cover; spillage is kept to a minimum. I could see my friend practising restrain which required years to master, 毕竟my friend used to teach at a neighbourhood secondary school. I was expecting my friend to display some glimpse of parental anger but I guess I did not really want to see it in public anyway. My friend is not the very patient type.
Kids, like everyone else, are multi-faceted and we usually only see a few sides of the full picture of who they are, what pleasure and also what trouble they give. I live in a white hair precint, there are already no more kids at home and cousins with babies live faraway. So when I do see them, they are already in 'presentable' shape. Plus, nobody fault babies for crying. Personally, if I had to choose, I prefer crying babies to pesty kids. Children are like angels, but many are far from that.
And kids are not toys either. Phrases like '带baby来玩leh' sounds really pedophilic. If you really like to play with babies then you should go 'get your own'. Trust me, there are many many many people who don't have kids of their own but love to play with other people's kids. It's such an irony that we always hear parents don't have time for their kids, whereas there are truckloads of other people who do. I know they don't mean it, but sometimes a proposition to go play with the kids sounds like jio-ing pple to go catch a movie or what. Don't treat kids like entertainment, although undoubtedly, they patronise us more willingly then other adults would.
I would love to have children as well but I really dread the bringing up process. The parents would only be part of a child's life, but the rest of the parents' life would forever evolve around the child. I was once a kid myself, I know I personify hell sometimes (and I believe in retribution). I think I would just make kids of close friends and cousins my godchildren. Then I get to feel a little bit of what parenting is like, but without the responsibilities and the sleepless nights. I would also get to enjoy the perks of having fun with them, be a part of their growing up process but not the heated arguments for more allowances or time out to play instead of studying. I certainly don't want to coax a kid to stop playing computer games and go to sleep while I am already half dead from work. Considering the birthday gifts, new year angpaos and Christmas presents I need to fork out every year, compare that to all the costs to bring up a child, I think being a godfather sounds pretty economical.
Sugar daddy sounds cool, but I'd rule it unethical. It doesn't sound right to toy with someone else's kids, whether or not you paid to do so.
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taxi taker at 11:39 PM