Thursday, April 07, 2005
True Love
True Love 词：姚谦 原唱：蔡健雅选择明天可能的爱
那一夜,他沈默从低潮关系逃开
一直到今天他还始终不明白
这样的决定到底该还不该
还记得那夜的悲哀
忍住泪关上门你故做坚强离开
然后安慰自己缘分自有安排
纵然心中充满了脆弱无奈
每个人都期待下次遇到真爱
才放弃的比珍惜还快
每个人都期待早点找到真爱
只可惜我们都一直到
有一天彼此怀念时才明白
我想我们不例外
在茫茫人海中寻找著合身的爱
好像童话里那拣贝壳的小孩
到最后才了解已错过了真爱
我们各自在生活里徘徊
只是夜深人静里会醒来
每当看著两人的合照时
心中还是有很多感慨
是不是我们下一次会遇到真爱？
夜的诗人：“It is almost the norm, or so we think it is, that people date people they love, and marry the person they love. We think it is only right, that you marry the person whom you truely love, and loves you in return. Well ... who wouldn't wish that could really happen to themselves? In fact, we might have taken the freedom to find love and be loved, for granted.
When I moved home after 2 1/2 years in army camps both local and overseas, and another further 2 years in school hostels, I have started to eat take-away dinners again. There's this chicken rice hawker at a neighbouring housing block's coffee shop, who have been plying his trade there for as long as I can remember. He had a female helper, who 'promoted' to lady boss as his wife. I do not know the details, but I guess, he might have married her because he did not really have a choice, or they chose to stick together for 'convenience' sake. The reason I say 'convenience', is because he would not have the time to go socializing, or dating, for that matter.
Like many many people in this whole wide world, dating is a luxury. I guess, it is also the same in Singapore. We have seen reports that Singaporean men are 'buying' brides from other countries; Chinese, Vietnamese, Indonesians ... etc. These poor chaps had worked hard all their lives but have still remained not as well-to-do. Not considered 'desirable', 'dependable' and 'financially stable', such blokes can only turn to these foreign brides to look for 'love'. Let's not go into the choices our women make, but the situation these guys are in. I'm sure, these guys would have wanted to marry someone that they loved, or someone they liked. Or at least, there must be someone that they had fancied before.
There are scores of movies, which tells of the 'oh-so-familiar' story of forbidden love. The rich girl who cannot marry the pauper, the marriage agreement made by mothers pregnant at the same time, couples who overcome disapproval by parents ... etc. Actually, whether we like it or not, these stories continue to inspire many, and encourages filmmakers to keep shooting them, because they provide a getaway, a form of redemption from the real world for the movie goers. There are so many people in the world who do not have the chance to date or to look for true love. They can only depend on matchmaking, or arranged marriage, whether or not it is their preferred choice.
I got to know Mr N during BMT. Mr N is a very clever chap, and is also a devoted Muslim. At first, I thought he would be very modern and more liberal in his views in regards to love. I was surprised when he said that it is still common for Malays to have arranged marriage, even between couples who hardly knew each other. He added,
"You will really learn how to truely love one another in such a marriage, because you don't get the chance to first like someone, before you marry that person."
For the rest of us, we still must be prudent with our choices. It probably was her smile, or the way he makes you laugh that attracted you at first. But when we've realised that he/she is not the right one, don't complain too much. We are lucky to get to choose first.”
taxi taker at 8:44 PM